
“God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.” — Rudyard Kipling
By Shahnawaz Ahmad Ansari
Before you knew language, success, ambition, or even your own name, there was a heartbeat protecting you. Not yours — hers.
Long before the world recognised your existence, your mother carried you inside her body, surrendered her sleep to your cries, and quietly rearranged her life around your survival. The umbilical cord may have been cut at birth, but another invisible cord — made of sacrifice, worry, prayer, and unconditional love — never truly disappears. Yet modern life is testing that bond.
In a world obsessed with deadlines, digital screens, and self-made success stories, many children have unknowingly become emotionally absent from the lives of the very women who built them. We remember birthdays, meetings, and notifications – but forget to ask a simple question: “Maa, how are you?”
This Mother’s Day, perhaps flowers are not enough. Perhaps what mothers really need is our time.
Science behind a ‘Mother’s Love’
A mother’s love is not merely emotional. It is biological. Scientists have found that during pregnancy, foetal cells pass from the child into the mother’s bloodstream and can remain there for decades. This phenomenon, known as foetal microchimerism, means a child may continue living inside the mother’s body long after birth. You are, quite literally, still a part of her.
Neuroscience also shows that motherhood permanently changes the brain. When a mother hears her baby cry, regions linked to empathy, alertness, and emotional responsiveness become deeply activated. Her body and mind are rewired around another human being.
The first home you ever lived in was not made of bricks. It was a woman.
History’s greatest minds understood this truth. Albert Einstein once said, “Everything I am, I owe to my mother.” Mahatma Gandhi credited his moral strength to his mother’s discipline and faith. Swami Vivekananda often spoke of the courage he inherited from his mother.
Behind extraordinary people, there is often an ordinary woman who quietly gave everything.
Every faith reveres mothers
Across religions and civilisations, mothers occupy the highest moral space.
In Islam, the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said three times that a mother deserves the greatest honour before mentioning the father. Hindu philosophy declares, “Matru Devo Bhava” — Mother is god. Christianity immortalised the image of Jesus thinking of his mother even during crucifixion. Sikhism celebrates women as the source of kings and generations, while Buddhism teaches that no child can ever fully repay the debt owed to parents.
Civilisations separated by geography, language, and time arrived at the same conclusion: the mother is sacred.
The invisible sacrifices we rarely notice
The greatest things mothers do are often the things nobody sees.
She ate last after feeding everyone else.
She stayed awake when you were sick and slept only after your fever dropped.
She worried every time you stepped outside.
She prayed for you silently while cooking, waiting, cleaning, or lying awake at night.
None of these acts was performed for applause.
They were done out of instinctive love.
A mother does not calculate sacrifice. She simply lives it.
Poets knew what we have forgotten
No literature on earth has grieved the mother’s love with the same aching beauty as Urdu poetry. The poets who wrote these lines were not being sentimental. They were being precise.
Jis ne di thi aaghosh-e-mohabbat tujh ko,
Us maa ke qadmon mein jannat hai teri!
(She who gave you the embrace of love – your heaven lies at that mother’s feet.)
And the English tradition, no less moved, gave us William Ross Wallace, who wrote in the nineteenth century: “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” Abraham Lincoln said with characteristic plainness: “All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” The writer Victor Hugo distilled it even further: “A mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them.”
Indian mothers: Architects of the nation
India was not built only by political leaders or institutions. It was built in kitchens, courtyards, and bedtime conversations.
Indian mothers carried families through poverty, migration, partition, illness, and uncertainty — often without recognition. They sold jewellery for education, skipped comforts for their children’s future, and turned values into inheritance.
The story of India is incomplete without women like Jijabai, who shaped Shivaji Maharaj’s vision, or Putlibai, whose discipline deeply influenced Gandhi.
Even today, millions of Indian mothers continue to be the country’s most underappreciated nation-builders.
The loneliness we refuse to see
Modern India faces a quiet emotional crisis.
Many elderly parents now live alone, especially in cities. Children move away in pursuit of careers and opportunities, but somewhere along the journey, communication becomes occasional, visits become rare, and affection becomes digital.
We often call this independence.
But for many mothers, it feels like abandonment.
What she needs is rarely expensive.
She does not want luxury.
She wants your voice.
She wants your presence.
She wants to know that the child she gave everything to still remembers her.
Before this day ends
Before this Mother’s Day is over, pause.
Call her.
Visit her.
Sit beside her without looking at your phone.
Listen to the stories you have heard a hundred times before. The story is not important anymore — her voice is.
One day, the house will become quieter than silence. One day, her number will stop appearing on your phone. And on that day, you would give anything to hear her call your name one more time.
Do not wait for absence to understand love.
Mother’s Day is not about social media posts or flowers bought in a hurry. It is about gratitude. It is about remembering the woman who stood between you and the world long before the world knew you existed.
Because the truth is simple:
She was your first breath.
Your first prayer.
Your first home.
And perhaps the purest form of love you will ever know.
Don’t wait for the silence to understand what you have.










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